Losing It

January 26, 2012

How much will you gain by losing your urge to talk back; to tell someone off; to give someone a piece of your mind?

How much will you gain by losing the need to spread gossip; to put down others because they aren’t like you; to take people for granted?

How much will you gain by losing the urge to tell lies; to blatantly spread rumors; to manipulate a situation to your advantage?

How much will you gain by losing the need to always be right; to prove something to others; to prove something to yourself?

How much will you gain by losing the urge to hold on to a grudge; to refuse forgiveness; to devise revenge?

How much will you gain by losing the need to worry about everything; to control everything; to control everyone in your life?

How much will you gain by losing the urge to react in anger; to explode over trivialness; to work yourself into a fury?

How much will you gain by losing it? Losing all of it...with just a snap of your fingers..poof...and it goes away. Sounds too simple, doesn’t it? Well, it might not be simple, but it doesn’t have to be hard.

Friends, we all exhibit behaviors we aren’t very proud of and if we’d stop long enough to reflect we know this to be true. Let’s face it, life happens and it’s not always sunshine and roses. Yet, neither is it always darkness and thorns. For most of us, life is somewhere in between. So why do we ‘act out’ or over indulge in some other form of negative behavior? I’d venture to say we’ve become accustomed to it, like and old tattered piece of clothing we feel comfortable wearing. Some of us wear anger, lies, spite and hatefulness close to us because we know how it feels, how it smells, how it looks. It’s familiar.

We’re comfortable in it; like a favorite pair of jeans or shoes. Unfortunately, we can become so content in our bad behavior we barely notice, if at all, when it’s gotten out of control. Hardly recognizing when our tattered clothing is so tight and constricting it’s hurting others. In addition, we don’t realize what we’d gain by losing it because unfortunately, a lot of us are addicted to this ill-chosen behavior.

So how do we ‘lose it’? Might I suggest a whole new wardrobe, so to speak. For instance, you could try on consideration and see how it feels; or, how about a brand new pair of forgiveness? Of course, there’s always an infinite supply of kindness just waiting for someone to take it home. Thankfully, the wardrobe possibilities are abundant...and endless.

So the next time you feel the urge to put on that old tattered bad behavior...just lose it. Instead, put on your new wardrobe and turn sunshine and roses back on in your life. And soon that new wardrobe will be so comfortable you’ll never leave home without it.

You’ll find yourself wearing kindness more; often not getting out of bed until you put on gratitude. Suddenly, you’ll be wearing shades of thoughtfulness, joyfulness and respect. A hatful of forgiveness may always be on your head. Trust me everyone will notice the positive changes in you. And they just might want a new wardrobe too.

So, wear your positive behavior well and often. Eventually friends, it will become an old tattered, well-worn and well-loved piece of clothing you can’t live without.

Can you imagine…how much you’ll gain by losing it?

Smile, it looks soooo good on you!

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