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Different Drum

November 9, 2017

So, we’re at Jeff’s place listening to YouTube music and what do I want to hear…“Amos Moses,” “Ding-a-ling,” “Big Purple People Eater”…couldn’t think of the banana song. Anywho, Jeff laughs and says, “You can listen to anything you want and that’s what you pick.” Of course! Why would I pick songs that are all over the radio? I want to hear silly songs that make me laugh that aren’t on any radio dial. Dickens, he should know me by now. My drum beats a totally zany, sometimes slightly silly tune.

So then this past weekend, we spend four days at the beach and I’m taking pictures of birds…sand patterns…white caps far out in the ocean…tracks of hermit crabs and birds…drift wood…our shadow on the sand. All of which I find incredibly fascinating. Although, being an artist may have something to do with how I ‘see’ the world. However, I feel deeply that I simply appreciate the awesomeness of creation and its numerous surprises with each step.

Such as the brilliant color of a petite flower’s petals. A tiny sapling precariously perched on a boulder. Or, a cloud formation shaped like a bleeding-heart dripping into the horizon. Even multidimensional, yet miniature, sand patterns created by the continuous ebb and flow of a vast ocean intrigue me. Jeff thought they were cool too.

Luckily for those of us inhabiting this planet, nature’s designs are as endless as grains of sand. Feeling grateful that I now beat to a different drum causes me to appreciate what I used to take for granted. The small things in life, like patterns in the sand.

You see, I was too busy being angry and resentful when I was growing up and even into young adulthood. I blamed my life on everything and everyone else. Mostly my parents…because without them, I wouldn’t be here. Seemed natural to me that my life, or lack thereof, was their fault. (I know better now and hold only myself responsible.) Made sense at the time, though.

My new beat began echoing in the background one day when my life changed. In fact, it changed so dramatically I suddenly found myself with a lot of time on my hands. Yes, two years bedridden certainly gave me time to think. Time to reflect. Time to realize I didn’t like the sound of the drum I’d been beating up to that point. And, I honestly didn’t like the ‘me’ I had known all my life. With utmost clarity I realized my attitude, my decisions and my actions needed adjusting if I was going to live life to the fullest and be joyful. For real…no pretenses.

So, I learned to play a new beat on the old drum. It was awkward and clumsy at first. Uncomfortable even a lot of the time. Going back to the old beat would have been so much easier because getting mad is easy. Effortless almost. But taking the high road and refraining from knee-jerk drum beats…that took effort.

Still, half the time my new beat sounded jumbled and unrefined. But I kept working on it determined I’d find happiness if I kept drumming the new beat. So every day I’d beat that new tune on my old drum and finally got good at it. Now I look for solutions, instead of dwell on problems. I respond, instead of react. I reach for the positive and push aside the negative. In fact, my new beat is so upbeat, others might see it as silly. I don’t care. It’s my drum!

Now, for me, the truth is…I don’t even like the sound of the old tune anymore. Therefore, I do my best not to pound any beats on my drum to the old (irritated, resentful, negative) tune. Instead, I make darn tootin’ my new drum beats are plum full of laughter, joy and smiles. That’s why, when I noticed the pool cleaner guy walking across tables in the swimming pool (with swim up bar) this past weekend I thought to myself… “Self, what fun! Let’s do it!” Yeppers, the last day Jeff and I were there I walked across just one table and smiled. Jeff smiled too. He knows me now, and likes the way I beat my drum. Even if it’s different from everyone else.

Friends, it’s good to grab life by the horns and tickle the dickens out of it. So, if you don’t like the beat of your drum…change your tune!

Can you imagine…a silly, happy tune that keeps you laughing?

Smile, it’s your new beat!



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