Love Spoken Softly
February 11, 2016
I read a story recently about a man who attended church every Sunday. One day after the service someone asked about his wife. He smiled and said he goes to the nursing home every day to have dinner with her but she hasn’t known who he is for the past five years. “Why do you bother then?” They asked. “Because I know who she is.” The old man answered. Sigh, love spoken softly, my friends.
Loving someone and being loved you understand and cherish the fact that love isn’t just good times, healthy times, financially stable times, intimate times, or happy times. True love is all the time. It speaks any language, it’s universal, it’s unconditional, it matters. Yet love spoken softly is louder than a thousand “I love you’s” shouted from the tallest skyscraper. You see, love is simply a four letter word to tell someone how we feel. True love, love from the depth of our being, whispers very softly. Without saying a word love speaks and we know we are loved.
Softly spoken love is “call me when you get there so I know you’re safe”. It’s asking how they are feeling today, or did they sleep well last night. Love is making the coffee before they get up even though you don’t drink coffee. Love is holding them in your arms just because they need a hug. Love is spending extra time listening because they need to talk, even though you might be late. Love spoken softly is putting their needs before your own.
Unfortunately, in this world of instant gratification, celebrities jumping from one love affair to the next barely catching their breath in between and reality TV splashing painfully obvious dysfunctional love relationships across the screen it’s easy to see why true love seems to have become a gray area. Completely misunderstood in a sort of here today gone tomorrow concept. Even like the parishioner who asked, “why bother.” Sadly, it’s as if society has lost its understanding of what love is all about. Almost as if saying, “I love you” is all you have to do. Well, I love my shoes but I’m not going out and buy any of them a box of chocolates or a stuffed frog holding a pink heart this Valentine’s Day.
Speaking of VD, chocolates, stuffed gorillas, or flowery cards, all shout LOVE very loudly. Like a flash bulb going off in your face. Then after you blink a few times to see clearly again...suddenly the chocolates have magically disappeared. The gorilla found a home on top of the fridge (for the time being anyway) and the card found its way into the trash. Oops! Not saying don’t rush out and buy into the hype. A box of chocolates or sentimental card has been the start of many wonderful love affairs. For me once, it was a teddy bear. I’ve had a love affair with teddy bears ever since. Kidding...not really, I have quite a collection. Anyway, I’m digressing...moving along.
Whew! Fanfare over, and it’s the morning after Valentine’s Day. If your love hasn’t been speaking softly maybe it’s time to start saying ‘thank you’ more often. Asking how their day went, and listening attentively while they tell you. Let love speak softly and offer to take your own car to get the oil changed so he can stay home and watch the game. Offer to do the laundry because she’s had a long week at work. Call your love because you just want to hear their voice.
Love spoken softly is appreciating the little things like washing her car or giving him a back massage. It’s remembering you like dressing on the side when ordering in a restaurant. It’s asking for A1 when the waiter forgot to bring it for his steak. It’s still holding each other’s hand after all these years. It’s sitting together and not talking yet knowing what each other is thinking. It’s acting silly and making each other laugh out loud. It’s feeling your heart skip a beat when they enter the room. Love spoken softly is simply wanting to share everything in life with your best friend and it never occurring to you not to.
Love spoken softly is the loudest words you’ll never hear, yet you will know you are truly loved.
Can you imagine…a stuffed gorilla eating chocolates on top of the fridge while reading a sweetheart card?
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY everyone!!! Love, hugs and smiles...